Drama Drama DRAAAMMMAAAA
Family Drama. For me it's as comfortable as an old blanket...or a losing record out of Buffalo. It's one of those things you can COUNT on to always be there for you. It seems like though all of a sudden I'm drowning in it and frankly...I personally am tired of it.
"Now I know why I seclude myself from the drama & ppl around me who say theyre my family".
They go on to state how they're upset because apparently one of their siblings and another cousin friended their ex on facebook. Now this cousin of mine has moved on with their life. They have a relationship with someone...bought a house (or at least have moved into one) and they have two great kids.
I'm not going to say who's side I'm on. The fact is to me..blood is thicker than water and at the end of the day I side with family (it doesn't hurt that when this person was involved with my cousin...I didn't think too highly of them...). My cousin should KNOW this...because I'm pretty sure what I'm goign to write is going to cheese AT LEAST one camp off...if not both.
The fact is...GROW UP! Your former fiance left the state and moved 3000 miles away...almost a full year AFTER you left them...almost six months AFTER you moved on. You got upset...they moved 3000 miles away. I get it. It sucks. I couldn't imagine leaving my kids like that. This person probably isn't going to win a parent of the year award. But for frak's sake MOVE ON! They're in Cali...you're here. You're raising your kids with your domestic partner. You're 'WINNING' (tm Charlie Sheen)...so why in the WORLD can't you let this go? You're a PARENT!!! Do you even have any CLUE what I'd give up just to BE one???? Do you know how hard it is for me to look around at all of my family and see them raising kids...and in my heart breaking because I don't have one???? At every year having to RE-EXPLAIN why I don't want to be Santa at Christmas (because I'm the one person that noone would recognize since I don't have kids). You have been given a precious gift...one that doesn't come to just ANYONE. Focus on that.
So what do you do??? Instead of just taking life as it's coming and making do...you go on Facebook and attack YOUR OWN FAMILY for DARING to maybe want to be facebook friends with someone who at one point was a part of the family? (by the way...odds are they're also facebook friends with people they knew in second grade who used to eat their own boogers...great company). Heaven forbid. I'm not going to friend this person...but that's because I never really LIKED this person. I respected their role in the family while they were in the family...but now they're not (except through your son...which means if they show up at an event with your son...I'm going to be as respectful to this person as I was before).
Look I understand you're hurt. I get it. I empathize...but the sheer vitriolic rants you've been doing for the past 2 years on Facebook have gotten old. I HID you on my wall for awhile because it seemed for awhile to be all you posted. I found myself getting depressed and at times just shake my head going 'what are you DOING???' It's not healthy. It's not healthy for you, it's not healthy for your son or daughter, it's not healthy for your mother, aunt, cousin, sister, brother, or even your Aunt's Uncle's Cousin's former roommate's second cousin on their mother's side. It makes you look petty and vindictive and I know you're not that.
You're a member of my family...and I love you. You and I don't get along all the time...but I think you know that when the chips are down...I'll show up. So will your sister, and this cousin who 'friended' your ex. It's in our genetic makeup. You're my cousin and at the end of the day that trumps everyone save my wife, nieces and nephews, parents and sister (in that order). You're one of the first friends I've ever had and I'm sick and tired of seeing you self-destruct like this. It's time for you to look around and see what you HAVE (your kids...your relationship) and not what you HAD or no longer HAVE. If your ex is too stupid/lazy/lame to take an interest in raising your kid...he wouldn't be the first. That doesn't give you the right to just chuck it, scream, pout and carry on. It means you have to stand in the gap.
If people in the family want to be 'facebook friends' with this person...I say let them. Odds are good it means they'll share resources in "The Sims Social" and maybe Farmville. At the end of the day...is it really worth posting on your wall about how they've betrayed you? Keep it in perspective. It's facebook...not life.
I hope I didn't offend you too badly...but I for one want you to be a HAPPY person and I think at this point your anger and rage at what's occured is blinding you from seeing what's happening around you. Your years with your son and daughter are precious and YOU get to have them...your ex doesn't. Again...that goes down as a 'win' (tm Charlie Sheen) in my book.
Thanks for reading;
PS: Realize...if you read the above at no point do I use personal pronouns or names even. This cousin (one of like 50 I have) is safely anonymous...so if you comment...remember that it may not be you.
There's other stuff going on...but I think today the camel's back broke and I just HAVE to write.
"Now I know why I seclude myself from the drama & ppl around me who say theyre my family".
They go on to state how they're upset because apparently one of their siblings and another cousin friended their ex on facebook. Now this cousin of mine has moved on with their life. They have a relationship with someone...bought a house (or at least have moved into one) and they have two great kids.
I'm not going to say who's side I'm on. The fact is to me..blood is thicker than water and at the end of the day I side with family (it doesn't hurt that when this person was involved with my cousin...I didn't think too highly of them...). My cousin should KNOW this...because I'm pretty sure what I'm goign to write is going to cheese AT LEAST one camp off...if not both.
The fact is...GROW UP! Your former fiance left the state and moved 3000 miles away...almost a full year AFTER you left them...almost six months AFTER you moved on. You got upset...they moved 3000 miles away. I get it. It sucks. I couldn't imagine leaving my kids like that. This person probably isn't going to win a parent of the year award. But for frak's sake MOVE ON! They're in Cali...you're here. You're raising your kids with your domestic partner. You're 'WINNING' (tm Charlie Sheen)...so why in the WORLD can't you let this go? You're a PARENT!!! Do you even have any CLUE what I'd give up just to BE one???? Do you know how hard it is for me to look around at all of my family and see them raising kids...and in my heart breaking because I don't have one???? At every year having to RE-EXPLAIN why I don't want to be Santa at Christmas (because I'm the one person that noone would recognize since I don't have kids). You have been given a precious gift...one that doesn't come to just ANYONE. Focus on that.
So what do you do??? Instead of just taking life as it's coming and making do...you go on Facebook and attack YOUR OWN FAMILY for DARING to maybe want to be facebook friends with someone who at one point was a part of the family? (by the way...odds are they're also facebook friends with people they knew in second grade who used to eat their own boogers...great company). Heaven forbid. I'm not going to friend this person...but that's because I never really LIKED this person. I respected their role in the family while they were in the family...but now they're not (except through your son...which means if they show up at an event with your son...I'm going to be as respectful to this person as I was before).
Look I understand you're hurt. I get it. I empathize...but the sheer vitriolic rants you've been doing for the past 2 years on Facebook have gotten old. I HID you on my wall for awhile because it seemed for awhile to be all you posted. I found myself getting depressed and at times just shake my head going 'what are you DOING???' It's not healthy. It's not healthy for you, it's not healthy for your son or daughter, it's not healthy for your mother, aunt, cousin, sister, brother, or even your Aunt's Uncle's Cousin's former roommate's second cousin on their mother's side. It makes you look petty and vindictive and I know you're not that.
You're a member of my family...and I love you. You and I don't get along all the time...but I think you know that when the chips are down...I'll show up. So will your sister, and this cousin who 'friended' your ex. It's in our genetic makeup. You're my cousin and at the end of the day that trumps everyone save my wife, nieces and nephews, parents and sister (in that order). You're one of the first friends I've ever had and I'm sick and tired of seeing you self-destruct like this. It's time for you to look around and see what you HAVE (your kids...your relationship) and not what you HAD or no longer HAVE. If your ex is too stupid/lazy/lame to take an interest in raising your kid...he wouldn't be the first. That doesn't give you the right to just chuck it, scream, pout and carry on. It means you have to stand in the gap.
If people in the family want to be 'facebook friends' with this person...I say let them. Odds are good it means they'll share resources in "The Sims Social" and maybe Farmville. At the end of the day...is it really worth posting on your wall about how they've betrayed you? Keep it in perspective. It's facebook...not life.
I hope I didn't offend you too badly...but I for one want you to be a HAPPY person and I think at this point your anger and rage at what's occured is blinding you from seeing what's happening around you. Your years with your son and daughter are precious and YOU get to have them...your ex doesn't. Again...that goes down as a 'win' (tm Charlie Sheen) in my book.
Thanks for reading;
PS: Realize...if you read the above at no point do I use personal pronouns or names even. This cousin (one of like 50 I have) is safely anonymous...so if you comment...remember that it may not be you.
Comments